I haven't been writing for so long, for more than a year. But, I just felt prompted to write again at the most random of times, when I should be doing my work. Writing about some things I wished someone would have told me when I was younger, when my self-esteem was smashed to an all-time low, when I had my heart torn into pieces, when I was in the process of falling in love, or before all that happened.

You see, as we grow up and move into the next phase of life - No one told us you might lose the friendship that you treasure the most. No one told us that he or she might be there the whole time and gone the next. No one told us that people change and even best friends can drift apart. One day, this friendship will come to a dreadful stop when you finally ask, what happened that changed things. I learned that you need to have the courage to let go when you know that the friendship is no longer healthy or makes you happy. 

You see, as we excitingly search for love and fall madly for that person - No one told us we were going to get our heart torn into pieces or the possibility of that happening because everyone tells you how great love is. No one told us how to love the way they receive love, not the way we deem it right to give. No one told us "I love you forever" doesn't actually mean forever. "Forever" is an infinite promise but no one told us that it has terms and conditions attached to it.  No one told us that love doesn't mean that you would be receiving love equally. No one told us that love is never easy, love is to understand, accept and learn. I learned that love is a fight for this one person who makes you laugh at your hardest, be at your happiest and makes you want to be a better person. 

You see, as we grow up and have more responsibilities in life - No one told us the importance of being happy. No one told us that to feel happy, you need to be able to feel the other end of the spectrum which is sad. No one told us to prepare ourselves because one day you will be scared of feeling happy as it would turn into dust anytime. No one told us that it is okay to feel sad and we don't have to hide our catastrophic thoughts beneath a smile. No one told us that we don't need anyone's permission to be happy. I learned that happiness is to be unafraid of being happy about the littlest things and relish in every moments in life.

You see, as we look for love in a friend or a partner before we learned to love ourselves - No one told us that our self-esteem might be smashed to an all-time low. No one told us that it is hard to love yourself when the society is telling you not to. No one told us that you will feel uncomfortable with your own skin, your own body size and you couldn't help but compare yourself to people who are smarter, prettier and skinnier than you. No one told us that everyone has their own struggles that they are waking up to each day. On the surface, they might look like they have a perfect life - success, money, beauty, fame and love - but the truth is, you don't know what they might be facing right now. No one told us that gaining weight, getting a new stretch mark or getting blemishes doesn't mean the world is ending. No one told us that this is a part of growing up. No one told us that you are doing better than you think you are. I learned that loving yourself means to believe, to forgive and not being so hard on yourself. 

Be ready for a road of heart aches when the society is trying to kill your kindness and happiness, but keep your mind stuck on being the one that places a smile on your own face. Find a reason to be happy every day. :)